Friday, June 12, 2009
Religious tatoo
Religious Tattoos: an Exception?
The reason for writing this blog is the recent obsession that I have noticed in “Christians” nowadays. The recent obsession or practice is nothing other than tattoos. We can see even “Christians” nowadays adorning themselves with tattoos (even though the process is painful). Tattoos are meant for artistic purposes, to beautify and also to express oneself and identity.
Well, I know for some people, it is something that has been done in the past before they actually came to meet the Lord, but this blog is however directed to people, who after having enjoyed his presence and listened to his teachings, have also gone into the practice.
I will not be talking about just about any kind of tattoos, but body marks that have to do with the Christian faith, e.g. Jesus hanging on the cross, Jesus Christ, Praying Hand, The Cross, Patrons of Faith like Paul, Abraham, etc.
The community we live in, or rather the world is so much filled up with barrage of information about a personal identity and self-expression. For some people, this is a way they can actually express who they really are, i.e., what they feel or believe in (in order words, their life philosophy). Each tattoo tells a different kind of story and brings about scenes from the past. Now, it really does make me wonder why someone would want to go back to the past when the events have already passed away, “For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone”. Even for those who already have the tattoos before giving their lives to Christ, it should be important that they try as much as possible to conceal the appearance of these tattoos on their body, but it is so strange that even people flaunt (for lack of word) these religious tattoos at every opportunity that they get.
Now, what does the bible really say about tattoos? The bible passage that readily comes to mind when the issue of tattoos come about is Leviticus 19:28 which says “Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.” Some have argued that the passage really does not have anything to do with the present society that we live in today, claiming that it has to do with the idol worship and pagan worship of the children of Israel, but I remember the words of Jesus that says “Heaven and Earth shall pass away, but my words shall not”.
Some people even say that we are in a new dispensation and that not everything in the Old Testament is applicable to us, but I’m very sure that most people quote the old testament bible passages that talk about God’s Blessings, Prosperity and other things – one of which is Deuteronomy 28:13. Now wait a minute, I think I can still remember that Proverbs and Psalms is in the Old Testament (if I’m not wrong) and most folks know virtually every words of wisdom present in this book, which is applicable for almost every area of our life, ranging from business to companionship to academics to interaction with others to living life in honor to God and so many other godly principles. Yet we fail not to comply with some of the laws present in the Book.
It is however true that even though the bible makes mention of so many things that he forbade the Children of Israel to do, like eating meat that has not been drained from its blood, trimming off the hair of your temple or beard, we must be well aware that God forbids his holy people to engage in idolatrous, pagan worship and sorcery which imitates the heathens. He does this out of protection, because he knows this will lead them away from the one true God.
So, the important question remains, is getting a tattoo a form of pagan, worldly worship still forbidden by God today? I think to really answer that question; you must ask yourself the motive for getting a tattoo in the first instance. Below is a self-examination on whether it is appropriate for you (there is no need to generalize about Christians at this point) to get a tattoo. But remember, Jesus Christ told his disciples that if they truly love him, they will keep his commandments.
If you are thinking about Galatians 6:17 to emphasize the fact that you want to tell your own story by having a tattoo of the cross or tattoo of Jesus, then it really doesn’t make sense because Tattoo as defined by the proposers of the Christian and religious tattoos is that it is a form of self- art, therefore since it is, your tattoos might not even strike a conversation (if that’s what you’re thinking) and people would just treat it the same way they would treat an ordinary tattoo, a self-art. Now would you really like to go that extra mile so that you could show that you are a Christian? There are several ways by which people can see the image and the light of God through you (other than this medium). “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven”. The Bible also says that “by their fruits, ye shall know them”.
Then, if this is your way of sharing in the punishment of Christ, then you are really wrong, because our salvation does not really have anything to do with us, it is by grace, and whatever it is that we might do on earth has no capacity and can never pay that price that he has paid on the cross.
That is why he has the stripes through which we are healed, and “ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.” 2nd (Cor. 8:9). Therefore whatever he has gone through, we do not have to go through, and by his mercies and grace can he make us stand worthy and acceptable unto God, his father.
Now for the Self- examination that I know that y’all are waiting for (gotten from the about.com website):
1. How does my heart and my conscience convict me? Do I have freedom in Christ and a clear conscience before the Lord regarding the decision to get a tattoo?
2. Am I passing judgment on a brother or sister because I don't have freedom in Christ to receive a tattoo?
3. Will I still want this tattoo, years from now?
4. Will my parents and family approve, and/or will my future spouse want me to have this tattoo?
5. Will I cause a weaker brother to stumble if I receive a tattoo?
6. Is my decision based on faith and will the result be glorifying to God?
Nevertheless, in any case, to get a tattoo as a “Christian”, you must have a strong conviction and it is left with you and God to settle whatever it is that you need to settle regarding this and any other decision you might want to make in the nearest future. Take some time to honestly answer these questions, pray to the Lord for guidance and the Lord will surely show you what to do. Article written by Ayokunle F.
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Saturday, March 21, 2009
The Birth of Christianity
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Friday, February 13, 2009
Sing Along
SING UNTO THE LORD
I have discovered that there is a dearth of songs & choruses sung among us, especially among the youths. So I've decided to post some special songs online. The last song* is one that is dear to my heart, by the grace of God, I actually wrote the song and you all are the first I'd be sharing it with. Enjoy!
S1: IN THE PRESENCE OF GOD
In the presence of God,
Hallelujah Joy,x4
Hallelujah joy....
Hallelujah Joy..(echoed by the audience)
S2: HEAVEN IS FULL OF JOY
Heaven is full of Joy
Heaven is full....of Joy X2 (echoed by the audience)
No more dying( also sorrow, crying)
Heaven is full of Joy X2 (echoed by the audience)
S3: DWELLING IN THE PRESENCE OF GOD
We are dwelling, dwelling
We are dwelling, dwelling
We are dwelling, dwelling...in the Presence of God.
S4: JESUS
Je-e-e-sus, Je-e-e-e-sus X2
Your name is so Wonderful,(also excellent)
Your name is so Marvelous,
Your name is so Beauti-fu-ull
Je-e-e-us!
S5: *FOUNTAIN OPENED FOR ME (Zechariah 13:1)
Fountain opened for me
Fountain opened for me-e
Fountain opened for me
There is a fountain opened for me!
Hallelujah!
Repeat stanza one.
For sin and un-clean-li-ness
For sin and un-clean-li-ne-ess
For sin and un-clean-li-ness
There is a fountain opened for me!
The bible says in Psalm 96:1 "O sing unto the LORD a new song: sing unto the LORD, all the earth."
I strongly encourage you to learn these songs(all of them have the same rhythm when clapping) and also post some new songs on the comment section.
God bless you.
B.J.E
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Friday, January 30, 2009
7 unchangeable principles of success
SEVEN (7) UNCHANGEABLE PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESS
Genesis 39:1-6
Success is not something that only a chosen few can achieve. Everyone can be successful in every area of his or her life. You just need to know how to do things in such a way as to make sure you succeed every time. Success comes as a result of forming certain habits, and continuing in them.
To succeed, you need to be a certain type of person. Don’t be discouraged if you are not yet that type of person. The successful person thinks in a certain way, talks in a certain way and acts in a certain way. (Proverbs 21:5; 22:29; 12:24)
1. VISION- Pro.29:18; Gen.37:5-11
Have a clear picture of what exactly it is you want to achieve or become. Keep this picture at the top of your mind at all times. Doing something you want to do, because you want to do it, will motivate you to succeed at it.
2. BELIEF- Rom.4:18; Ps.75:6,7
Believe without a shadow of doubt that you can do it. Believe that you will succeed. Believe in God that He will help you get what you want. Stay away from negative influences (books, people, anything negative), which makes you doubt your ability to succeed. Surround yourself with things that remind you that you can, and will succeed.
3. AFFIRM- Phil.4:13; II Kgs.4:26
Make a habit of saying out loud what you hope to achieve. Speak of it in the present tense. If you feel awkward speaking out loud to yourself, write down the affirmation. This helps your mind stay focused on the goal.
4. COMMITTMENT- Pro.10:4; 13:4
Make a firm commitment to action. Decide to take whatever steps you need to take to help you achieve your goals. Then honor the commitment you have made. Too often we find it easy to keep our commitments to others while neglecting our commitments to ourselves.
5. SET A SMART GOAL-I Sam.17:45-50
Now that you know what you want to achieve or become, you need to define it by making it a goal. Your goal has to be Specific, Measurable (i.e. you need a standard to help you know when you’ve achieved it), Attainable, Realistic, Timed (state when you hope to achieve it).
6. PLAN AND TAKE ACTION-Jos.2:1;6:10,16,20
Work out a plan of action. Breakdown the plan into steps. Take a step or two each day, reminding yourself that each step is bringing you closer to your goal. Perform each act to the best of your ability, filled with faith, determination and purpose to reach your goal.
7. PERSISTENCE-Ruth 1:16; II Kgs.2:2,4
Do not give up until you have achieved what you desire. In the course of things, be willing to change any part of your plan which turns out to not work and try something else. Thomas Edison did not give up in his quest to invent the light bulb, even though he ‘failed’ 10,000 times. Now that’s persistence! See every failure as a stepping stone to success. Learn from it and push on towards your goal.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
• Stop settling for less than you want
• Don’t let anyone talk you out of your vision
• You have to give up all your excuses. 99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.
• Pay attention….Your results don’t lie. The easiest, fastest and best way to find out what is or isn’t working is to pay attention to the results you are currently producing.
• Decide what you want. The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.
• The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.
• Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you've got.
• Act as though it is impossible to fail.
• Confidence is the companion of success.
• Choice, not circumstances, determines your success.
• Life's real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you gave up.
• Success: willing to do what the average person is not willing to do.
• What am I willing to sacrifice for what I want to become?
• Yesterday's failures are today's seeds that must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest Tomorrow's success.
By Bro S.G
Please post contributions or any questions or comments.
Genesis 39:1-6
Success is not something that only a chosen few can achieve. Everyone can be successful in every area of his or her life. You just need to know how to do things in such a way as to make sure you succeed every time. Success comes as a result of forming certain habits, and continuing in them.
To succeed, you need to be a certain type of person. Don’t be discouraged if you are not yet that type of person. The successful person thinks in a certain way, talks in a certain way and acts in a certain way. (Proverbs 21:5; 22:29; 12:24)
1. VISION- Pro.29:18; Gen.37:5-11
Have a clear picture of what exactly it is you want to achieve or become. Keep this picture at the top of your mind at all times. Doing something you want to do, because you want to do it, will motivate you to succeed at it.
2. BELIEF- Rom.4:18; Ps.75:6,7
Believe without a shadow of doubt that you can do it. Believe that you will succeed. Believe in God that He will help you get what you want. Stay away from negative influences (books, people, anything negative), which makes you doubt your ability to succeed. Surround yourself with things that remind you that you can, and will succeed.
3. AFFIRM- Phil.4:13; II Kgs.4:26
Make a habit of saying out loud what you hope to achieve. Speak of it in the present tense. If you feel awkward speaking out loud to yourself, write down the affirmation. This helps your mind stay focused on the goal.
4. COMMITTMENT- Pro.10:4; 13:4
Make a firm commitment to action. Decide to take whatever steps you need to take to help you achieve your goals. Then honor the commitment you have made. Too often we find it easy to keep our commitments to others while neglecting our commitments to ourselves.
5. SET A SMART GOAL-I Sam.17:45-50
Now that you know what you want to achieve or become, you need to define it by making it a goal. Your goal has to be Specific, Measurable (i.e. you need a standard to help you know when you’ve achieved it), Attainable, Realistic, Timed (state when you hope to achieve it).
6. PLAN AND TAKE ACTION-Jos.2:1;6:10,16,20
Work out a plan of action. Breakdown the plan into steps. Take a step or two each day, reminding yourself that each step is bringing you closer to your goal. Perform each act to the best of your ability, filled with faith, determination and purpose to reach your goal.
7. PERSISTENCE-Ruth 1:16; II Kgs.2:2,4
Do not give up until you have achieved what you desire. In the course of things, be willing to change any part of your plan which turns out to not work and try something else. Thomas Edison did not give up in his quest to invent the light bulb, even though he ‘failed’ 10,000 times. Now that’s persistence! See every failure as a stepping stone to success. Learn from it and push on towards your goal.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
• Stop settling for less than you want
• Don’t let anyone talk you out of your vision
• You have to give up all your excuses. 99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.
• Pay attention….Your results don’t lie. The easiest, fastest and best way to find out what is or isn’t working is to pay attention to the results you are currently producing.
• Decide what you want. The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.
• The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.
• Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you've got.
• Act as though it is impossible to fail.
• Confidence is the companion of success.
• Choice, not circumstances, determines your success.
• Life's real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you gave up.
• Success: willing to do what the average person is not willing to do.
• What am I willing to sacrifice for what I want to become?
• Yesterday's failures are today's seeds that must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest Tomorrow's success.
By Bro S.G
Please post contributions or any questions or comments.
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Friday, January 23, 2009
Dating: a Christian Perspective - part II
The Dark side of Dating
One thing is certain, youths are in the vulnerable period of life and during this time, you may feel powerful surges of sexual desire. There is nothing wrong with this; it is part of growing up. However, there is a great problem with teenage dating because teenagers are just beginning to learn how to control these sexual feelings. A biological fact of life comes into play: The more you keep company of someone you like of the opposite sex, the more sexual desire can grow, whether you want it or not. It is the way all of us are made! Until you are older and more in control of your feelings, dating may be too much for you to handle. Unfortunately, many youths find this out the hard way.
Let’s examine and learn from what a youth said about his experience with dating:
“When we started dating…we didn’t even hold hands or kiss. I just wanted to enjoy the pleasure of her company and talk. However, she was very affectionate and would sit very close to me. In time we started holding hands and kiss. This created within me an even stronger sex drive. It affected my thinking to the point that I wanted to be with her, not just to talk, but to hold her, touch her and kiss. I couldn’t get enough! I was literally going crazy with passion.” Little wonder, then, that dating often ends up in secret sexual relations.
True, you may well know God’s law regarding sex and you may sincerely desire to remain a virgin, but always remember the biological fact of life that comes into play: The more you keep company with someone of the opposite sex, the more sexual desire can grow, whether you like it or not.
1 Corinthians 6: 9-10 KJV “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God”.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's”.
Now let’s turn to Genesis 39: 2-11 NIV and learn from how another youth avoided a secret sexual relation by means of his knowledge of God’s law regarding sex and his desire to remain pure/chaste/virgin:
Genesis 39: 2-11 NIV. “The LORD was with Joseph and he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian master. When his master saw that the LORD was with him and that the LORD gave him success in everything he did, Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant. Potiphar put him in charge of his household, and he entrusted to his care everything he owned...Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, and after a while his master's wife took notice of Joseph and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he refused. "With me in charge," he told her, "my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her. One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. She caught him by his cloak and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house”.
Proverb 1:10 KJV “My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not”.
Put into pointers, the dark side of dating include:
I. Frustration: Yes! You may argue that not every youth that spends lots of time with someone of the opposite sex ends up having sexual relations; some let their display of affection stop just short of it. Okay! But think of this, what results when one is worked up emotionally and has no honorable outlet for such feelings? Frustration!
II. Torn Emotions: Teen romances are always doomed relationships, often terminating in heart break. During the teen years your personality is still in a state of flux because you are discovering who you are, what you really like, what you want to do with your life. Someone who interests you today may not interest you tomorrow and when romantic feelings have been allowed to flourish; someone is bound to get hurt. Several research studies have linked “a fight with a girl friend” or “disappointment in love” to the situations responsible for many youth suicides. After a secret sexual relation, a boy may find that his feelings for the girl are not as strong as before; he may even find her less attractive. A girl on the other hand may feel exploited. Recall the Bible account of the young man Amnon and how lovesick he was over a virgin Tamar. Yet, after intercourse with her, “Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone”. – 2 Samuel 13:15.
A girl had a similar experience. She explained that after having sexual relations, she hated herself for her weakness, and hated her boyfriend. In fact, the sex relations they thought would bring them closer ended their relationship. She stated that she didn’t even want to see the boyfriend again. Yes, by having premarital sex, a couple crosses a line over which they can never go back!
III. Teenage Pregnancy: By observing that some of their friends had enjoyed sexual relations without getting pregnant, some girls figured they could do so, too. The truth is whenever one engages in sexual relations there is the risk of pregnancy.
IV: Sexually transmitted Diseases: Some youths feel no guilt whatsoever about having sexual relations. However, sexually transmitted diseases often result from premarital sex.
Galatians 6:7 KJV “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap”. Pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are just some of the ways one can reap an unpleasant harvest from fornication. Even using birth control is no guarantee that a girl will escape pregnancy.
-Bro Daniel
So what are your thoughts or questions on the dangers of dating?
One thing is certain, youths are in the vulnerable period of life and during this time, you may feel powerful surges of sexual desire. There is nothing wrong with this; it is part of growing up. However, there is a great problem with teenage dating because teenagers are just beginning to learn how to control these sexual feelings. A biological fact of life comes into play: The more you keep company of someone you like of the opposite sex, the more sexual desire can grow, whether you want it or not. It is the way all of us are made! Until you are older and more in control of your feelings, dating may be too much for you to handle. Unfortunately, many youths find this out the hard way.
Let’s examine and learn from what a youth said about his experience with dating:
“When we started dating…we didn’t even hold hands or kiss. I just wanted to enjoy the pleasure of her company and talk. However, she was very affectionate and would sit very close to me. In time we started holding hands and kiss. This created within me an even stronger sex drive. It affected my thinking to the point that I wanted to be with her, not just to talk, but to hold her, touch her and kiss. I couldn’t get enough! I was literally going crazy with passion.” Little wonder, then, that dating often ends up in secret sexual relations.
True, you may well know God’s law regarding sex and you may sincerely desire to remain a virgin, but always remember the biological fact of life that comes into play: The more you keep company with someone of the opposite sex, the more sexual desire can grow, whether you like it or not.
1 Corinthians 6: 9-10 KJV “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God”.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's”.
Now let’s turn to Genesis 39: 2-11 NIV and learn from how another youth avoided a secret sexual relation by means of his knowledge of God’s law regarding sex and his desire to remain pure/chaste/virgin:
Genesis 39: 2-11 NIV. “The LORD was with Joseph and he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian master. When his master saw that the LORD was with him and that the LORD gave him success in everything he did, Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant. Potiphar put him in charge of his household, and he entrusted to his care everything he owned...Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, and after a while his master's wife took notice of Joseph and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he refused. "With me in charge," he told her, "my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her. One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. She caught him by his cloak and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house”.
Proverb 1:10 KJV “My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not”.
Put into pointers, the dark side of dating include:
I. Frustration: Yes! You may argue that not every youth that spends lots of time with someone of the opposite sex ends up having sexual relations; some let their display of affection stop just short of it. Okay! But think of this, what results when one is worked up emotionally and has no honorable outlet for such feelings? Frustration!
II. Torn Emotions: Teen romances are always doomed relationships, often terminating in heart break. During the teen years your personality is still in a state of flux because you are discovering who you are, what you really like, what you want to do with your life. Someone who interests you today may not interest you tomorrow and when romantic feelings have been allowed to flourish; someone is bound to get hurt. Several research studies have linked “a fight with a girl friend” or “disappointment in love” to the situations responsible for many youth suicides. After a secret sexual relation, a boy may find that his feelings for the girl are not as strong as before; he may even find her less attractive. A girl on the other hand may feel exploited. Recall the Bible account of the young man Amnon and how lovesick he was over a virgin Tamar. Yet, after intercourse with her, “Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone”. – 2 Samuel 13:15.
A girl had a similar experience. She explained that after having sexual relations, she hated herself for her weakness, and hated her boyfriend. In fact, the sex relations they thought would bring them closer ended their relationship. She stated that she didn’t even want to see the boyfriend again. Yes, by having premarital sex, a couple crosses a line over which they can never go back!
III. Teenage Pregnancy: By observing that some of their friends had enjoyed sexual relations without getting pregnant, some girls figured they could do so, too. The truth is whenever one engages in sexual relations there is the risk of pregnancy.
IV: Sexually transmitted Diseases: Some youths feel no guilt whatsoever about having sexual relations. However, sexually transmitted diseases often result from premarital sex.
Galatians 6:7 KJV “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap”. Pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are just some of the ways one can reap an unpleasant harvest from fornication. Even using birth control is no guarantee that a girl will escape pregnancy.
-Bro Daniel
So what are your thoughts or questions on the dangers of dating?
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Monday, January 19, 2009
Dating: a Christian Perspective - part I
In many places dating is seen as a means of romantic entertainment, a fun activity. Dating takes many forms. For some it is a formal structured affair, the agenda includes giving flowers, having a lovely dinner, and a good –night kiss with member of the opposite sex. For others, dating simply means spending time together with someone you like of the opposite sex. There are teenage boys and girls who are often seen together but who claim to be “just friends”. However, whether you call it dating, going together, or just seeing each other, it usually amounts to the same thing: a teenage boy and girl spending lots of time together socially, often unsupervised. Dating was not the custom in Bible times.
The Pressure to Date
I. Peer Pressure: It is not uncommon for you as a teenager to feel under pressure to date because most of your peers probably date, and naturally you do not want to seem weird or different.
II. Pressure from a Relative: The pressure to date may also come from close relatives. A teenage girl explained that when she was asked to go out on a date at age 15, her aunt advised her that whether she wants to marry the boy or not has nothing to do with dating, it is a part of ones natural development as a person and that if she always turn guys down, she will be unpopular and no one will ask her out. This teenager recalls: “Aunties words sunk down deep and I was asking myself, would I be cheating myself out of a good opportunity? The boy had his own car, lot of money; and I felt I would have a great time. Then, I started asking myself, should I date him or not?”
III. Personal desire for warmth and affection: For some youths the pressure comes from their own desires for warmth and affection. They want to be loved and appreciated. An 18 year old female explained that since she was not close to her parents, she turned to her boyfriend to find closeness and to have someone to whom she could pour out her feelings who would really understand.
A teenager should not begin dating simply because he or she feels pressured to do so! Dating is a serious business. It is a part of the process of selecting a marriage partner. Marriage? Yes! This may be the last thing on the minds of most youths who date. But think of this, what justification could there be for two people of the opposite sex to begin spending a lot of time together other than to investigate the possibility of marrying each other?
-Written by Bro. Daniel
So what are your thoughts on the pressure to date?
The Pressure to Date
I. Peer Pressure: It is not uncommon for you as a teenager to feel under pressure to date because most of your peers probably date, and naturally you do not want to seem weird or different.
II. Pressure from a Relative: The pressure to date may also come from close relatives. A teenage girl explained that when she was asked to go out on a date at age 15, her aunt advised her that whether she wants to marry the boy or not has nothing to do with dating, it is a part of ones natural development as a person and that if she always turn guys down, she will be unpopular and no one will ask her out. This teenager recalls: “Aunties words sunk down deep and I was asking myself, would I be cheating myself out of a good opportunity? The boy had his own car, lot of money; and I felt I would have a great time. Then, I started asking myself, should I date him or not?”
III. Personal desire for warmth and affection: For some youths the pressure comes from their own desires for warmth and affection. They want to be loved and appreciated. An 18 year old female explained that since she was not close to her parents, she turned to her boyfriend to find closeness and to have someone to whom she could pour out her feelings who would really understand.
A teenager should not begin dating simply because he or she feels pressured to do so! Dating is a serious business. It is a part of the process of selecting a marriage partner. Marriage? Yes! This may be the last thing on the minds of most youths who date. But think of this, what justification could there be for two people of the opposite sex to begin spending a lot of time together other than to investigate the possibility of marrying each other?
-Written by Bro. Daniel
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